October 29, 2011 by Julie Moon

My father in law is very sick.  He’s been sick as long as I have known him really.  He had lymphoma and underwent chemo which killed his kidneys and his liver.  He needs heart surgery which they won’t give him because he also needs a kidney and a liver. He won’t be getting any of those because he’s too sick.   He does dialysis three days a week and he has a speech therapist, a physical therapist, an occupational therapist and a nurse all coming to his home.

He’s never been a very affectionate man and never very expressive with his words but yesterday when we went to visit he called my name and said “thanks for coming to visit.”  I have always known he loved me and was happy that I chose to marry his son.   He called today after I sent a picture of the grandkids via email and said to me in his goodbye on the phone “I love you.” I think that was the first time I have ever had him say that to me.

I don’t know how much longer he is going to be around.  I am grateful for all the time we have had with him.  I am sad that he is not doing well.  I am amazed that he has lived as long as he has.  I am happy that he and my son have a connection beyond words.  I will miss him when he is gone.  He is a good man and it meant a lot for him to say “i love you” today.   Sometimes short quick goodbyes are good because you don’t watch a person suffer for a long time but sometimes long drawn out goodbyes are good because you have the time to say everything you ever needed to say.

I love you too Grandaddy.

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